Thursday, March 23, 2006

Gender Woes?

A lot of people in my class are really pissed off by the fact that a lot of girls rely a lot on boys to get much of their work done. Girls try to be sweet to boys so that they can get some favours or advantages. Some guys are really pissed off by this behaviour. They feel that gilrs "use" boys in this way. Strangely, this annoyance comes only when this girl is not a friend of yours. If she is a friend, her dependence on you makes you feel all good inside. In fact, it probably becomes an important part of any romatic relationship. Boys like to be patronising and dote over their girls. Atul feels that a lot of romantic compatibility is decided by how much a guy likes to "parent" and how much a girl likes to rely on her boy. For a good relationship, they should have mutually compatible levels of dominance and submission (I hope this does not sound too kinky!! heh heh).

Human relations are strange!!

And please do not make any "feminist" comments on this one. This is an observation on what really happens and not on what should or should not happen.

12 comments:

  1. Cool down Daddoo, Tum to bechari **** ke peechhe hi pad gaye...

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  2. I disagree! But am not comment on it since you have some kind of request in the last few lines.

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  3. hehe.... dude i made girls do my thngs (assignments, records and whatnots... hmm successfully for two yrs...)and i agree tht gals take advtg

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  4. @brute

    I don't know what kind of gender equation existed at your place but here, at IIT Kanpur, the sex ratio is so scewed (400 boys vs 25 girls) that a lot of gender relationships become very artificial and strange.

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  5. hmm... then thts obvious tht boys 'll definitely do watever for gals... :D

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  6. Sindhu,

    In spite of Vinod's request, I'd like to hear your views on this.

    Vinod, of course, is simply making an observation so as long you don't attack him, I'm sure he won't mind.

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  7. Holy crap, 400 boys vs 25 girls?? That's nuts. At Colby there's about 1900 students and I'm not sure what the exact percentage is but I know its somewhere around 53% girls.

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  8. As far as I know, the sex ratio is close to 50% in "normal" Universities over here too. IITs are different case I'll perhaps attempt a blog on the reasons for the skewed sex ratio in the IITs.

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  9. Anirudh, I don't know about the situation in IIT..just taking Vinod's word for it. At our place it's more like 1:1 ratio. And guys here get everything, I mean every damn thing..including class notes(!) done through the girls. They literally kneel down to get their things done and some girls are naive enough to believe the stuff they cook up and do it for them.
    And what advantage can such girls take? If being patronized is called taking advantage, I wonder what's the word that could be used to describe such guys.

    Well, but guess it doesn't happen everywhere. There can be some exceptions too. But this is what happens most often.

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  10. AT least as far as IITK scene is concerned the observation is well... really an observation. :)

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